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Writer's pictureDr. Mary McCullough

The Social Pressures of Motherhood: Finding your “Mom Space” in a glamorized Culture.


Motherhood, moms, mothers

Motherhood is often depicted as a magical journey filled with joy, laughter, and picture-perfect moments. From Instagram feeds to TV shows, the portrayal of mothers is frequently idealized, creating an unattainable standard for many women. This glamorized culture can lead to immense social pressures, making it difficult for mothers to carve out their own space and find their true identity amidst the chaos of parenting. In this blog post, we will explore the social pressures of motherhood and provide strategies to help mothers find their "mom space" in a world obsessed with perfection.


Mom and social media

In today's digital age, social media platforms are flooded with images of mothers who seem to have it all together. These "Instagram moms" showcase their perfectly dressed children, immaculate homes, and seemingly effortless parenting skills. While these images can be inspiring, they often paint an unrealistic picture of motherhood, leaving many women feeling inadequate and overwhelmed.


standards for moms

The pressure to live up to these standards can lead to stress, anxiety, and even depression. Mothers may feel compelled to constantly compare themselves to others, striving to meet the same level of perfection they see online. This comparison can be detrimental to their mental health and overall well-being. The social pressures of motherhood extend beyond social media. Family, friends, and society as a whole can also contribute to the unrealistic expectations placed on mothers. Well-meaning advice and unsolicited opinions can make mothers feel judged and scrutinized for their parenting choices.

Additionally, the expectation to balance work, household responsibilities, and parenting can be overwhelming. Many mothers feel the need to excel in all areas, leading to burnout and a sense of failure when they fall short. The constant juggling act can make it difficult for mothers to find time for themselves, further exacerbating feelings of stress and inadequacy.


Do what works for you

Despite the pressures, it is possible for mothers to carve out their own "mom space" and find balance in their lives. Here are some strategies to help navigate the social pressures and create a fulfilling and authentic experience of motherhood:


1. Set Realistic Expectations: Understand that no one is perfect, and it's okay to have bad days. Set achievable goals and be kind to yourself when things don't go as planned.

2. Limit Social Media Consumption: Reduce the time spent on social media to avoid falling into the comparison trap. Focus on following accounts that promote authenticity and positive parenting.

3. Create a Support Network: Surround yourself with supportive friends and family who understand and respect your parenting choices. Join local mom groups or online communities where you can share experiences and gain encouragement.

4. Prioritize Self-Care: Make time for activities that bring you joy and relaxation. Whether it's reading a book, taking a walk, or enjoying a hobby, self-care is essential for maintaining mental and emotional health.

5. Communicate Openly: Discuss your feelings and challenges with your partner, friends, or a therapist. Open communication can help alleviate stress and provide new perspectives on managing motherhood.

6. Embrace Imperfection: Accept that imperfections are a natural part of life and parenting. Celebrate small victories and learn from the challenges without harsh self-judgment.


Motherhood is a unique and personal journey that should not be defined by societal pressures or glamorized portrayals. By setting realistic expectations, limiting social media, creating a support network, prioritizing self-care, communicating openly, and embracing imperfection, mothers can find their own "mom space" and experience a more authentic and fulfilling version of motherhood. Remember, every mother's journey is different, and it's important to honor and celebrate your individual path.


In Wellness,


Dr. Mary McCullough, psychologist, therapist, coach

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